i finally figured out what makes this so different from last time. before it was a game, who could hurt who more, how long could we hold on to the obvious nothing that was still there, how long could we say things in statues and myspace surveys that would somehow hurt the other without us really even trying. i’m trying to figure out which is worse. silence or a constant game of back and forth. neither is healthy, so what is the best way of dealing with things like this?